The Truth about Seduction
The sexiest, darkest, most potent kind of foreplay, seduction has associations with illicit, even immoral behaviour and the most inappropriate goings on, but somehow this just makes it more exciting…
Strip the word down to its bare essentials and seduction means to entice someone into sexual activity, with the rather sticky overtones of persuading them to do something that they really shouldn’t, and normally wouldn’t, do. The idea of being seduced, however wicked that may be, is obviously a hot one.
Damaging affairs and dubious sexual scenarios aside, seduction is a heady fantasy. It is about relinquishing control and letting someone else take the lead. It is about the chase, the moment, the conquest, the passion and the sex itself. Which is invariably steamy. And it’s not just men who do the seducing.
Five top tips on getting it right
Numerous websites will give you the best in ‘fast seduction techniques’. This is ideal for the lazy, unimaginative lover who rates sex by the efficiency with which their partner hurtles from 0 to orgasm.
Don’t reveal too much
There is no fast track to seduction. It is a slow, sensual process and it’that’s more about razor-sharp attitude than looking drop-dead gorgeous. Don’t reveal too much of what’s going on under your clothes. Seduction is suggestion rather than statement. Let him mentally undress you numerous times before you spoil the fun.
Give him your undivided attention
Your aim is to make him feel understood and consequently that you can give him what he wants. Being attentive and really listening can be very seductive. The greatest lovers make their intended feel like the most important person in the room, the most attractive, the most interesting. And when someone feels like that, they will seek out your company to keep those good feelings flowing.
Stay in control
The role of the seductress is to know more about what is going to happen next than he does. You are in control, so when and where you meet, talk and spend time together should be dictated by you.
And then there’s the moment when you touch… Don’t rush that part. The longer you make him wait, the more intense it will be. By the time you get there, he should be willing to sell his own mother for the chance to run his fingers across your skin.
Location, location, location…
You need a seductive space to work your magic so choose your location wisely. Enticing ‘the one who will be yours’ into a flat decorated with yesterday’s knickers and a half eaten bowl of cornflakes will be too much information. However, an evening spent in the dark, atmospheric recesses of a moody little bar or restaurant is far more conducive. Lingering eye contact and a couple of glasses of wine in his bloodstream will enhance the effects of your undivided attention.
Leave him wanting more
Make the unspoken promise that his experience of you has only just begun. Even if you’ve been together for years, there’s no reason why he has to know everything all of the time, unless you choose to spread it out on a plate.
When it comes to seduction, there is a lot of mystery surrounding this topic. Most average guys are not really that well versed in seducing a woman, and so, they are not really keen on what the myths about seduction are, and what the truth really is. Because of this, most guys tend to think that they could NEVER even fathom the idea that they could become the kind of guy that seduces women easily. This article might shed some light and change your opinion on that.
For most guys, they are led to believe that the way to a woman’s heart is to be the text book romantic kind of guy. So, they strive to try and be the knight in shining armor and when that does not yield any results, they get frustrated. They wonder why they are trying all of the “right” things, and still having a hard time with women. Well, when you know the TRUTH about seduction, all of that can change in an INSTANT.
Here are 3 myths about seduction that need to be BUSTED wide OPEN:
Myth #1- To Seduce a Woman, You Have to Learn Hypnotic Routines
This just is not true at all. For some guys, this is the way that they go about turning a woman on, and it might very well work for them. However, it is NOT the only way. Hypnosis itself has a lot of myths swirling about, one of which is that you can make someone do anything that you want them to. And that is not true. You cannot force someone to do something that they do not want to through hypnosis. Truth be told, I have never even bothered to try and use hypnosis to seduce a woman, and I do FAR better than most guys do when it comes to picking up women and getting them into bed.
Myth #2- Seduction is All About Getting Laid
For a lot of guys that struggle with seduction and getting women into bed, this is what they believe. And it is the reason why they continue to struggle. Sex is the byproduct of successfully seducing a woman, it’s the end result. But, to get a woman to that point, you have to create massive attraction, rapport, and make her feel like she is being caught up in some kind of whirlwind of romance and passion. So, it’s not just about getting her into your bedroom.
Myth #3- To Seduce a Woman, You Have to Act Like a Jerk
This gets a lot of attention because for most “nice” guys, what they see is that the jerks seem to have no problems at all with getting women. It’s usually not the jerkiness that gets them the babes, it’s the unabashed confidence that these guys have. And you can develop the same kind of confidence without having to be a jerk to women. Plus, a lot of the jerks do end up hooking up with women that have a LOT of issues. They get caught up in a LOT of drama. If you want to attract and lay beautiful, quality women… then put aside the jerkiness and turn up the confidence.
You don’t have to be a jerk, try to hypnotize women, or just go around trying way too hard to seduce a woman into bed with YOU.
( Source: Chris Tyler)
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